Date a girl who doesn’t read. Find her in the
weary squalor of a Midwestern bar. Find her in the smoke, drunken sweat, and
varicolored light of an upscale nightclub. Wherever you find her, find her
smiling. Make sure that it lingers when the people that are talking to her look
away. Engage her with unsentimental trivialities. Use pick-up lines and laugh
inwardly. Take her outside when the night overstays its welcome. Ignore the
palpable weight of fatigue. Kiss her in the rain under the weak glow of a
streetlamp because you’ve seen it in film. Remark at its lack of significance.
Take her to your apartment. Dispatch with making love. Fuck her.
Let the
anxious contract you’ve unwittingly written evolve slowly and uncomfortably
into a relationship. Find shared interests and common ground like sushi, and
folk music. Build an impenetrable bastion upon that ground. Make it sacred.
Retreat into it every time the air gets stale, or the evenings get long. Talk
about nothing of significance. Do little thinking. Let the months pass
unnoticed. Ask her to move in. Let her decorate. Get into fights about
inconsequential things like how the fucking shower curtain needs to be closed
so that it doesn’t fucking collect mold. Let a year pass unnoticed. Begin to
notice.
Figure that
you should probably get married because you will have wasted a lot of time
otherwise. Take her to dinner on the forty-fifth floor at a restaurant far
beyond your means. Make sure there is a beautiful view of the city. Sheepishly
ask a waiter to bring her a glass of champagne with a modest ring in it. When
she notices, propose to her with all of the enthusiasm and sincerity you can
muster. Do not be overly concerned if you feel your heart leap through a pane
of sheet glass. For that matter, do not be overly concerned if you cannot feel
it at all. If there is applause, let it stagnate. If she cries, smile as if
you’ve never been happier. If she doesn’t, smile all the same.
Let the years
pass unnoticed. Get a career, not a job. Buy a house. Have two striking
children. Try to raise them well. Fail, frequently. Lapse into a bored
indifference. Lapse into an indifferent sadness. Have a mid-life crisis. Grow
old. Wonder at your lack of achievement. Feel sometimes contented, but mostly
vacant and ethereal. Feel, during walks, as if you might never return, or as if
you might blow away on the wind. Contract a terminal illness. Die, but only
after you observe that the girl who didn’t read never made your heart oscillate
with any significant passion, that no one will write the story of your lives,
and that she will die, too, with only a mild and tempered regret that nothing
ever came of her capacity to love.
Do those
things, god damnit, because nothing sucks worse than a girl who reads. Do it, I
say, because a life in purgatory is better than a life in hell. Do it, because
a girl who reads possesses a vocabulary that can describe that amorphous
discontent as a life unfulfilled—a vocabulary that parses the innate beauty of
the world and makes it an accessible necessity instead of an alien wonder. A
girl who reads lays claim to a vocabulary that distinguishes between the
specious and soulless rhetoric of someone who cannot love her, and the
inarticulate desperation of someone who loves her too much. A vocabulary, god
damnit, that makes my vacuous sophistry a cheap trick.
Do it, because
a girl who reads understands syntax. Literature has taught her that moments of
tenderness come in sporadic but knowable intervals. A girl who reads knows that
life is not planar; she knows, and rightly demands, that the ebb comes along
with the flow of disappointment. A girl who has read up on her syntax senses
the irregular pauses—the hesitation of breath—endemic to a lie. A girl who
reads perceives the difference between a parenthetical moment of anger and the
entrenched habits of someone whose bitter cynicism will run on, run on well
past any point of reason, or purpose, run on far after she has packed a
suitcase and said a reluctant goodbye and she has decided that I am an ellipsis
and not a period and run on and run on. Syntax that knows the rhythm and
cadence of a life well lived.
Date a girl
who doesn’t read because the girl who reads knows the importance of plot. She
can trace out the demarcations of a prologue and the sharp ridges of a climax.
She feels them in her skin. The girl who reads will be patient with an
intermission and expedite a denouement. But of all things, the girl who reads
knows most the ineluctable significance of an end. She is comfortable with
them. She has bid farewell to a thousand heroes with only a twinge of sadness.
Don’t date a
girl who reads because girls who read are the storytellers. You with the Joyce,
you with the Nabokov, you with the Woolf. You there in the library, on the
platform of the metro, you in the corner of the café, you in the window of your
room. You, who make my life so god damned difficult. The girl who reads has
spun out the account of her life and it is bursting with meaning. She insists
that her narratives are rich, her supporting cast colorful, and her typeface
bold. You, the girl who reads, make me want to be everything that I am not. But
I am weak and I will fail you, because you have dreamed, properly, of someone
who is better than I am. You will not accept the life that I told of at the
beginning of this piece. You will accept nothing less than passion, and
perfection, and a life worthy of being storied. So out with you, girl who
reads. Take the next southbound train and take your Hemingway with you. I hate
you. I really, really, really hate you.
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